Engaged – 10 Things I’ve Realised

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So I’ve been engaged for a total of 3 weeks and 3 days and it has been an enlightening experience. Andrew and I have been together for 5 years now, and I’d be lying if I said I’d not be praying for the day to come when he asked me to become his wife. The reactions from family, friends and even strangers have been interesting and I’m sure many couples will be able to relate to my list of 10 things I’ve realised since getting engaged and probably have a few more to add. Some I’ve found a little upsetting if I’m honest, but when I’ve spoken to other engaged or married friends, it seems that some of these things are all too common…

10 Things I’ve Realised Since Getting Engaged…

1. As soon as you mention the ‘W’ word, everything becomes more expensive than it usually would be.

2. People you wouldn’t expect get really excited for you and can’t wait to express their congratulations to you both.

3. Conversely, some people who will expect to be invited to the entire day won’t even bother to say congrats on Facebook, cause y’know it takes SO much effort.

4. People will show you their true colours, some for the good, some very much for the bad.

5. Your parents won’t be able to contain their excitement and your dad will suddenly become a wedding planner!!

6. You will start to stress over keeping everyone happy, then realise that it’s your day and all that matters is that you are both happy.

7. You will find a new found interest in flowers, table dressing and colour schemes.

8. You will inevitably view a horrendous venue and have to smile politely as the events coordinator shows you around their incredible venue. Eek.

9. There will be lots of tears; sharing the news with loved one, discussing your father daughter dance, wishing loved ones who are no longer here could see you so happy.

10. This is the biggest commitment of your life and it all starts to get very real, but you’ll realise you’re falling more in love with your other half and can’t wait to grow old together.

Are there any other points you could add to this list? I’d love to hear from you!

Lauren xx



  1. October 31, 2016 / 6:46 pm

    I actually got little shivers reading that last bit. Can’t wait to hear about all your wedding planning over the next year!!
    Lucinda Xxx

    • by Lauren Jane
      November 4, 2016 / 12:30 pm

      Thanks so much Lucinda!!! xxxxx

  2. October 31, 2016 / 7:35 pm

    Love this! I grew a carpet obsession when venue hunting and many were turned down for having terrible carpets! Haha all in all though it’s a fab day and I can’t wait to see yours!

    • by Lauren Jane
      November 4, 2016 / 12:30 pm

      There has been some horrendous decor Lucy, red carpets and green walls…x

    • by Lauren Jane
      November 4, 2016 / 12:22 pm

      Thank you Dei!! xx

  3. Jayne
    November 1, 2016 / 10:24 pm

    Oh my gosh congratulations! I got engaged on New Years thus year and we got married September 2nd so I’ve been through the whole process! My advise because wedding venues is to keep looking until you find the one, you’ll know when you see it. Depending on budget you may need to compromise but if I can make a hotel in the lakes work for an outdoor boho themed wedding then I promise you you can make it work! Enjoy every moment, don’t stress over the little details as no one will notice. Book a band for the reception if budget allows as it was worth every penny to us! I’ll be writing up a wedding recap up on my blog as soon as I get the professional photos back so check that out if you think it might help 🙂

    Jayne xo

    • by Lauren Jane
      November 4, 2016 / 12:22 pm

      Thank you Jayne!! We’ve found our perfect venue and you’re so right, we knew instantly. We’re trying to find a decent band too. Looking forward to seeing your post xx

  4. November 14, 2016 / 1:33 pm

    All so so so so true! Point 6 is very crucial.. It’s YOUR day, both you and Andrew, but we all know it’s the brides day really.. But you really must remember that. Of course you want your guests and they need to remember they’re guests at your day and not that you should be happy that they can attend, but, it’s about you. What you like and want. There’s no re-do’s (unless you renew your vows down to line, but this is the ‘big’ day) do it exactly how YOU want it.

    I’m so excited for you ad cannot wait to read more about your plans. You are going to be truly beautiful as a bride! 🙂


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